tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69955213103460519452024-03-13T15:14:05.834-04:00MoorePeachTee's Love Movementconversations on everything in lifeMoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-64342743602539111542013-05-07T18:13:00.000-04:002013-05-07T18:13:05.227-04:00I forgotIt's been such a long time, I forgot that I had this ole blog. This is just a reminder post..mostly to myself.<br />
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I'm here. I need to be here.<br />
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I haven't even been able to write for real and today I found myself reading some old stuff and was surprised that I even liked it...shout out to Martha for helping get into my old yahoo account to read some of my old poems. I see that reading things from the early 2000's helps me remember where I was back then and who I was. I like some of it.<br />
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So today I learned to reconnect with the best of my old self and was reminded that I need to get back to writing. Feeling. Writing. Connecting.<br />
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I want to get back to that ole tenisiaism..that new moorePeachteeism. It's there.<br />
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Back. Like I never left.<br />
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Word :)<br />
<br />MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-28180540475283696992011-10-18T15:07:00.001-04:002011-10-18T15:41:16.668-04:00So I know it's been quite awhile since I've posted, but as you know I've been dealing with my daughters cancer and she is now in remission!! Woohoo! <br />
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Word was out in Muskegon, MI about my daughter and a woman approached my mother about a Cancer Awareness Benefit concert that a local church does every year. This year they choose two families to recognize and mine was one of them. The concert was on Friday and I have been a ball of emotion since then. Here is the letter that I sent to the church as a thank you ---- <br />
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The Cancer Benefit Concert on Friday, October 14, 2011 at Queen Esther Baptist church was an amazing and spirit lifting event. <br />
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The choirs were great, the musicians were wonderful and the praise dancing was the best I had ever seen. <br />
But the words and spirit in which they came moved me and stayed with me. So much so that I was on the verge of tears all weekend. <br />
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When Naiima was diagnosed with a tumor and then panhypopituitarism (which is loss of pituitary/endocrine function) and then later cancer, all of my family, friends and friends of friends began praying. People spoke about and prayed for a miracle. I was comforted by that and it gave me some peace. I mostly prayed to get through and accept what God placed in our path. <br />
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<em>“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” Isaiah 41:10 </em><br />
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I knew that I had to be present. By that I mean, that I had to focus on what was going on right now. <br />
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So at the doctor’s appointments and hospital stays, I had to know what all the words meant. I didn’t want doctors speaking to me and I not understand what they were saying or not understand the implications of what they were saying or not saying. Sometimes I would whip out my laptop while the doctor was speaking or bring out my pen and paper and look up or write down what they were saying. I knew that I had to be able to explain to people what was going on and answer question after question. <br />
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I also had to know and understand for myself and my child what was going on. I knew that my daughter had given a lot of her concern over to me. She sometimes seemed unaffected by it all. When the doctors asked her questions, she would turn and look at me. I know that she was affected underneath it all, but she wore a brave face. So in turn, I wore a brave face. I wore that brave face for her but also for my mother and my grandmother and my friends. <br />
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Because while everyone outwardly dealt with the shock of it all and the fear it entailed, I knew that as my daughter’s caregiver, I could not. I knew that I had to absolutely present and I also knew that God was present with me. <br />
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<em>“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD” Psalm 27:13-14 </em><br />
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I never questioned – why my daughter? I never asked why. Years ago, I read the book of Job and it took me years to come to terms with the book. But it was solidified during this experience. I saw all of those children on that same floor, a lot who were worse off than my daughter. I remember telling her that and saying to her don’t ever ask or think “why me?” because why not you? She had brain cancer but she had the best brain cancer to have. So I knew that why’s and woe-is-me’s are not helpful..especially when you are trying to be present..be focused on the moment..the here and now with God. That is what I also knew. I knew that God was with me through it all and we would be ok.<br />
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<em> “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9</em> <br />
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I didn’t realize until Friday though that I had not released all of those emotions that I was holding in and so slowly I have begun to release them. I know that that will be good for me and my family. <br />
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<em>“He refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake” Psalms 23:3 </em><br />
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I am not a public speaker at all, so I could not verbalize these things at the concert. I would like to thank the Women Helping Women of the Queen Esther Church for being the vehicle for release those emotions and to realize how blessed we are and more importantly, that we are not alone. <br />
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We appreciate the generous gifts and are so thankful to have been apart of something so meaningful!<br />
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God Bless, <br />
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Tenisia Moore, <br />
Mother of Naiima Dixon, cancer survivor MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-12290104773887761282011-04-28T13:18:00.002-04:002011-04-28T13:18:43.992-04:00Mothers are superhero'sThis experience has been the most emotional, horrendous, moving, exhausting experience in my life.<br />
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So many people have called me strong. That word has stuck with me through out this experience. It always makes me want to kind of step back and say, no I'm not. I'm just a mom. The word keeps coming up and keeps sticking with me. So much so that I just have to address it.<br />
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I have always thought that there is a special and unique spirit that only a mother possesses. There are mothers and there are mothers. So not every woman that has a child and is called mother is a mother. This I know. But when I speak about mothers, I am talking about that special gift to a person's world that is essential to a persons being. It's spiritual. <br />
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I have always been thankful for mothers. Women who carry a baby in their womb and think and worry and pray and cry and shout and laugh over that baby/child's life and future. Like God, a mother loves their child from the womb. And it is often all encompassing.<br />
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With that said, a year ago when we found out that my first born child had a brain tumor. It rocked my world. Because I knew it would change my child's world. But we have been on this journey and fighting this fight for this past year. And among all other things, a mother is a fighter. She is a soldier. She surveys the landscape and circumstance of her child and prepares to meet the coming enemy with her might. Sometimes she will win and sometimes she will lose. But she fights nonetheless. And sometimes, she has a whole army with her. I have had so much support from my family and friends and even strangers. A whole army of people with well wishes, kind thoughts and words.<br />
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Through out this year, I have had my mind set against the Big "C" word. Hopefully, the tumor is not cancer. That was my mantra. But then the tumor was cancer. But it is a "curable cancer" it responds well to chemo and radiation and they believe they can get it all. Now the radiation may cause problems 20 years or so down the line but even those should respond well to chemo/radiation.<br />
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So now, we have a name. The enemy has a face. And we face the enemy. My daughter is strong. She takes this and keeps on going and planning. That makes me stronger. <br />
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Sometimes, I cry. But I don't allow myself to wallow in a river of tears. Sometimes, I look at my daughter and feel sad at her laying in the hospital bed. But then I think about how blessed we are that it is not worse. We have seen other children in this hospital on this floor who's story breaks my heart. My heart goes out to their mothers. They are so strong. And the children are always smiling. <br />
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I think that says a lot. It says that you can deal with what is placed in your path. It may be hard. It may make you cry. But you still put one foot in front of the other and walk.<br />
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So to everyone who thinks I am strong. You should know that I am just a mother. And I've always known that mother's are super hero's.MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-55958717824892486522010-10-29T17:38:00.000-04:002010-10-29T17:38:24.692-04:00Start Where You AreLast week, I was angry and ready to blog about my anger. I had decided to blog about the perception of Black women, especially in regards to dating and marriage today. But I am no longer angry. I am sad. So that blog will have to wait and I think the forum for that will be my blog www.underthera.wordpress.com (I have yet to really use that one..so that should help).<br />
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As I was saying, today I am sad. I was leaving one of my sites (that houses homeless women and children) and a tenant approached me as I was walking to my car. Although there are two social workers on site and I am not one (my duties there are more toward paperwork than people), she approached me to talk about her struggles finding a job. She told me that she doesn’t have a high school diploma, a GED and she has felonies. She’s trying to get a job.<br />
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We discussed her getting her GED and she told me that she reads at a 5th grade level and would like to get better at it for her son. She tries to read to him and doesn’t want him to know that she can’t really read.<br />
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When I left the site, I was very sad. It made me think of poverty and its effects. Especially when it comes to the cycle of poverty. Higher crime, poor health/medical care, developmental delays, poorly funded schools and substandard education, poor nutrition and eating habits, etc. etc. It repeats itself and <i><b>becomes generational</b>.</i><br />
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I speak about love a lot. I had a blog about it (see previous posts). Today, I was moved to spread love. What could I do to make a positive change in her life and/or the lives of others?<br />
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I talk about spreading love alot and I believe that compassion for others is paramount to manifesting God in human beings. This incident made me feel that I need to be doing more. <br />
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There are quite a few things that I have identified as MUST DO's for me. I MUST read and learn. I MUST love my neighbor as myself. I MUST be the best mom that I can be, as I believe that I have been entrusted to guide two souls on their journey in this life. I MUST be a a good friend to those I encounter. I MUST acknowledge, love, nurture,respect & accept<br />
the value of myself..as a woman and human being. I MUST also help others wherever possible to do the same. <br />
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This incident compelled me to action. The first thing I did was call the Literacy Center of West Michigan to begin volunteering. Its something that I should have done a long time ago and had always planned to do. I am a lover of the written word and I believe that it is a most useful means of knowledge and discovery. I am also trying to get our site to be a tutoring site for them in the future.<br />
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In addition, I thought of my old sunday school teacher, Mr. Duren. He used to have Straight Talk for teenagers. It allowed us to get together to discuss whatever was on our minds. I thought it was wonderful at the time and it made me think about these women at my site.<br />
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So I am starting something similiar. This group will meet every other Wednesday night from 6-8 pm. It would be a place for the ladies to talk about their concerns - life, hardships, children, dating, etc. Talking about concerns can be helpful in working through feelings and experiences, recognizing strengths and exploring alternative solutions to every day and real life problems. Additionally, I envision the group being one additional means for the ladies to grow in terms of personal development. I want the group to be a safe place for discussion without fear of judgment or reprisals. <br />
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There is more that I can do. And there is more for you, as well.<br />
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Please take a moment today to find at least one avenue to help someone in your community today. <br />
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You may already be involved with something and if so, I’d like to thank you for your compassion and ability to live love.<br />
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It’s never too late to start.<br />
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http://liveunited.org/<br />
www.volunteermatch.org<br />
www.serve.gov<br />
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there are more sites, but these few can help you get started. or start your own.<br />
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Peace & blessings to you!<br />
Spread loveMoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-11160125033180061712010-06-04T12:12:00.000-04:002010-06-04T12:12:43.310-04:00My worse news yetI never would have imagined that one day I would hear the news that my daughter has a brain tumor. It’s not something I was prepared for or had researched. When I thought of the major things that I would have to deal with as a parent with Naiima, I assumed it was going to be coming of age type of stuff like the influence of her friends on her thinking and behavior (didn’t really happen); losing sight of goals because a boy has clouded her vision and focus (didn’t happen); if what I think of as the best of me had or would somehow be made manifest in her as she became the best of her. <br />
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I had started thinking that I had somehow had the enormous luck to get through raising her without the normal/standard teenage drama (ok, occasionally she is moody or says things without thinking and she can be spoiled) and that we are almost home - the bench mark for Home being High School graduation..even though I know that parenting doesn’t stop there. We have one more school year to go! <br />
And then this curve ball comes along – BRAIN TUMOR. Naiima has a brain tumor. Its location has affected pituitary functions and as a result she is not producing and/or is producing low amounts of 4 of the key 8 hormones the pituitary controls. Her kidneys are unable to conserve water (diabetes inspidus) and she may not be able to have children. <br />
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Being a lover of Google and information, I immediately started to research. What is a brain tumor? What types of treatments are available? What are the side effects? What are the success and rehabilitation rates? Then it’s made even more frustrating because with her brain tumor, they don’t know what it is? So they don’t know how they are going to treat it yet or even if they are going to treat it. The size of a brain tumor matters because there is limited amount of space and even a small and benign brain tumor can trouble the areas near it just by being there. Thankfully, hers is relatively small. So it is possible that it could just sit there and not cause any further damage? <br />
The not knowing has been excruciating. <br />
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It is so hard to get this news and have to wait for “real” action. I have read probably hundreds of case studies and survivor stories and they give me hope and the knowledge that people get it and deal with it and make it. There are blogs of people with brain tumors describing treatment or describing survival only to have reoccurrence years later. There are other stories of loss and grief; of parents who have lost children and surviving spouses. I have stopped torturing myself with reading those. <br />
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I do believe that eating “real” food without additives, antibiotics, pesticides, etc is necessary and I’m transitioning my family to that. I have also been reading up on articles and people who speak about alternative cures and treatment. Some of them I believe. Some I do not. People have cautioned me about allowing my daughter to receive chemotherapy and or radiation. And I have to say at this point, we don’t know if it is malignant or benign and not even sure if they are going to treat it or watch it. I don’t believe that doctors know everything and I don’t accept their words as absolute. However, a lot of doctors today recognize that diet, spirituality and attitude play a huge factor in treatment and her doctor sounds like he does. But I would say this – when it comes down to it..when its life or death..when its my child..I want the best available treatment and if that’s chemotherapy, then we’re doing chemotherapy. I have read a lot survivor stories of teenagers who have had conventional treatment. Keep in mind that brain tumors that are malignant (and primary) are not like other cancers. <br />
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This news makes you want to prepare for battle. You gear up, read all that you can, talk to who you can, get the support that you can and prepare for the coming onslaught armed to the teeth. And then I’m waiting..and waiting and waiting. In the meantime, I’m trying to be very strong. I don’t want her to know that I cry about it a lot. I don’t want anyone to know the possibilities that sometimes invade my brain that I don’t really want to think about but can’t help but do so. When I talk about it to people or type about it as I’m doing now, it’s like I swallow all of my emotions. Sometimes there is literally a lump in my throat as I swallow my emotions. Put them away and speak about it as if I’m clinically detached researcher. “Yes, that’s what they said,” “In my research, I’ve come across,” “No, we don’t know,” “Our next appointment is..” “Oh, she is holding up fine,” “Yes, I’m ok”. <br />
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I can not cry and talk at the same time. So talking or typing about it, keeps me from focusing on it if that makes any sense. But I find that if I am not talking about it then my emotions are taking over and I don’t like that. So I would put a status update on facebook and reading the comments helped me not focus on my own feelings, but the concern of others.<br />
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I have gotten lots of support and “if you need anything”s and even if I haven’t called on you for that particular anything..I’m still glad to know that it/you are there. This posting is just about my thoughts/feelings dealing with this as the parent. It has been very hard. I feel helpless and at times overwhelmed.<br />
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I am prepared for battle, but I don’t know the details to come..I’m just waiting. After I had previously blogged about coming out of the holding pattern, I am now in a holding pattern. So I’m tense. I’m tired. Sometimes, I am over compensating. <br />
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I keep thinking, after this is over then I can really talk about it. Then I can give my “testimony”. Right now, I’m in it. In the battle and I’m preparing and I’m READY. and I’m waiting. I’m doing what I can – reading, changing our diet, showing her my support and giving her my love and not focusing solely on this. We are not sitting at home dwelling on a brain tumor. We are living our life. It’s just in the quiet moments, when I’m in the car alone, when I go to bed at night and sometimes when I wake up in the morning. It is there. (mothers worry).<br />
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I have not mentioned God in this posting up until now. People give me great scriptural references to help get me through. We’ve been prayed for and prayed over. I do believe in the power of prayer. I am not a Christian in the traditional sense. I always say that I practice “tenisiaism”. I’m not really a traditional person anyway. I believe in God and I believe that my purpose is to explore my personal relationship with God and live my life accordingly. With that said, I want to say that of course I pray to God about this. And of course, I expect God to work it out. But at the same time, I have let go and am letting God on this one (as they say). This one is bigger than me. I can’t reason it out (yet). I can’t claim that I have faith that if I do not “claim the tumor” that it is not there. It is there. I have seen it. <br />
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My belief in God and my spirituality have not been tested. I believe in everyday miracles. And try as I might to find the answers to everything, sometimes I do not have them. And thats ok too. <br />
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I hadn’t wanted to blog about this because I didn’t want to say, “I think its just a small, benign tumor that they are just gonna monitor and it will probably cause no further damage” and then later have to recant my words. I don’t want to jinx it. I also don’t want to blog speculating about the worse when it is the best case scenario (even with brain tumor, there is a best case scenario).<br />
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I was able to blog about it right now because last week, I really talked it out and released some of those emotions that I had been swallowing and today Martha sent me an email that sparked something in me today (this is the second time I think Martha). <br />
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Honestly, I can not even describe the feelings that I’ve been going through. This whole blog posting is just an attempt to convey it but somehow it can’t come close.MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-59999473897923941002010-02-07T14:00:00.000-05:002010-02-07T14:00:28.917-05:00my favorite month<br />
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It’s February. The month of my birth. I was born February 13th at 11:58 pm. So close to valentine’s day. I like to think that’s why I am so enamored of “love”. In all its forms - agape, eros, philia, storge and xenia. and as i grow, my ideas of love grows. february is also black history month. <br />
to be honest, i don't particularly "do" anything different in february than i do in other month with respect to black history. i believe taht we need to read up on and honor our history all the time. however, i do get to catch up on ALOT of black movies that are played accross the various channels during the month of february. :)<br />
it's quite a short month but it is host to me, love and black history. right off the bat, love and black history does not appear to have anything to do with each other. <br />
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when i was younger, my concept of love was limited to familial love and romantic love. in high school, i developed a love for my people. that love coincided with me learning about african american history in america. i was in shock learning that there was so much that i did not know. i was young. and i was angry. i remember thinking that black history month seemed to be defined by a few people, a few plays and church programs, usually associated with the civil rights movement. particularly, dr. martin luther king, jr.<br />
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i had read malcolm x and i agreed with "any means necessary". watching the clips of the civil rights marchers trying to march with dignity while being attacked made me angry. thinking about those 4 little girls (16th street baptist church bombing), i didn't want to hear turn the other cheek and listen to speeches of non violence. i was inspired by "We declare our right on this earth to be a man, to be a human being, to be respected as a human being, to be given the rights of a human being in this society, on this earth, in this day, which we intend to bring into existence <b>by any means necessary</b>. ” (Malcolm X, 1965) and for some reason, i felt that i had to choose between the two. in my mind, it was choosing between the weak and the strong. i wanted our people to be strong. <br />
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last night, i watched a piece on mlk by cnn <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/US/studentnews/02/04/discussion.activity.mlk.papers/index.html?iref=allsearch"></a>. and it made me think about how angry i used to be. the older i get, the more i come to love dr. king's actions and words. the older i get, the more i realize how much strength it takes to live and practice love & non-violence in a society determined to circumvent your inherent human dignity. when i watched the clips of the marchers being attacked, i still got angry. but i was also in awe of the will and resilience of those marchers to keep marching based on the principle of the upliftment of our people. i was aware of the strength that must have taken. and then he goes on to say that we are to love our enemies. there was a time when i would have thought that that was weak. that time has since passed. Clarissa Pinkola Estes says that "some people mistake being loving for being a sap. Quite the contrary, the most loving people are often the most fierce and the most acutely armed for battle". <br />
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as i grew so did my concept of love and its association with god. i've already written a blog on living love and god being love. it seems to be a recurring and growing theme in my mind & spirit. at some point, i discovered Gandhi. This man's non-violent struggle lead to the end of England's century long rule of India. he inspires me. it is amazing to see men who live and die for principles when those principles are for the upliftment of people and the human condition. gandhi believed that all great religions conveyed the simple truth that love, truth and non-violence are synonomous with eacher & are synonomous with God. How can you not love Gandhi?!! <br />
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MLK was inspired by Gandhi also. In Stride Toward Freedom, he wrote "Gandhi was probably the first person in history to lift the love ethic of Jesus above mere interaction between individuals to a powerful and effective social force on a large scale." King concluded: "If humanity is to progress, Gandhi is inescapable. We may ignore him at our own risk."<br />
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you see, here is where black history & love meet. MLK is influenced by jesus's command to "love your neighbor as yourself" and gandhi's living example of that commandment. <br />
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Reading Gandhi's words struck a chord in my soul. "It is the law of love that rules mankind. Had violence, i.e. hate, ruled us we should have become extinct long ago. And yet, the tragedy of it is that the so-called civilized men and nations conduct themselves as if the basis of society was violence.<br />
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.<br />
Whether humanity will consciously follow the law of love, I do not know. But that need not disturb me. The law will work just as the law of gravitation works, whether we accept it or not. <i><b>Through the Heart we may come to know the Love of God; through the Heart we may become the Love of God."<br />
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with that in mind, it is with love that we transform society. and i mean love as an action word. the kind of love that inspires you to donate to haiti after watching the devastation. the kind of love that inspires you to donate or work at local shelters. the kind of love that inspires you to mentor a teenager or be a big brother/big sister. the kind of love that inspires you to "be the change you wish to see in the world" (gandhi)<br />
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at the end of the mlk program last night, i thought about black history and how it is sometimes only thought of during the month of february. or how i've heard people complain that it is in the month of february and that's the shortest month of the year. but really, we don't need a government approved holiday to remember or honor our history. i think one of the driving forces for carter g. woodson in establishing black history week and then month was the lack of available evidence of the contribution of black people. it is definately important that we are aware of what we have accomplished, how far we have come. i think we have to remember that there is sometimes not a love of self-love in our community. we sometimes don't hold our culture in high esteem (unless we are being attacked). and we sometimes do not behave as if we hold our culture in high esteem. so maybe black history month is so important to serve as a reminder that we need to understand who we are as a people, what we can do and how much we can improve as a people and more importantly really love ourselves as a people. <br />
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The Senegalese poet Baba Dioum once wrote, “In the end, we conserve what we love. We love only what we understand. We will understand only what we are taught.”<br />
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lets love ourselves!MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-8006012721432229292009-12-31T09:32:00.003-05:002009-12-31T10:06:05.553-05:00Coming out of the holding pattern for 2010As 2009 is coming to a close, I had started to listen to and read commentaries on New Year's Resolutions and goal setting for the new year. I think at the end of the year, it is only natural for everybody to make plans for a better New Year.<br /><br />I don't really like the idea of New Years Resolutions. They are percieved more as "wishes" than real directives and goals. In the month of December, I had come up with four areas of my life that needed immediate attention. I referred to them as focus points. The focus points involved my spirituality, health, financial status, and home-life improvement. I tried to come up with goals that were SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound). I'm doing pretty good.<br /><br />God always makes sure that I have the right people in my life at the right time! As you may know, I am a conversationalist and always engaged. LOL. Anyway, all of the conversations with my soul sister friends prompted my spirit to recognize that I was in a holding pattern.<br /><br />If you google "holding pattern", you will come across a wikipedia (you know I love wikipedia) entry describing it in relation to aircraft and flying. When there are issues on the ground, bad weather, traffic congestion, other emergencies..etc. the control tower uses a holding pattern to delay an incoming plane from landing at its destination. So the plane or planes will fly around in a circle waiting to land at its destination.<br /><br />During a conversation with Martha (shout out to you!), I realized that every since I began to regret returning to Michigan I just started waiting. I was waiting for something to happen; waiting to leave; waiting for some magical force to prompt me to MOVE/DO/CHANGE/ADJUST. And during that time, I have been coasting along. I have been finding myself wherever the wind blew me. So for four years, I've been in a holding pattern waiting for air traffic control to tell me that the coast was clear and that I could continue on toward my destination. Four years!!<br /><br />At the end of 2009, I realized that it was time for me to come out of the holding pattern for 2010!! There will always be issues and distractions on the ground, but I am the air traffic controller. I have to make sure that I am moving with clarity/focus/determination/perservence/tenancity..with unwavering will and focus toward my destination - being the best me in this lifetime!!<br /><br />There are some things that are not in my control. But how I operate, react and fly on this journey is all up to me. At the end of 2009, I realized that it was time to move forward -For Real-. <br /><br />I'm on my way. And I wish you a wonderful & successful journey into the New Year!<br />peaceMoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-17502750934203984732009-08-18T12:24:00.005-04:002009-08-18T12:36:32.944-04:00Living Lovegod is love. this sentence is so profound and full of meaning that i think it is often over looked. <br /><br />Googling the word love gives you varying definitions, examples from different cultures and religious groups centered around concepts of love. like, selfless love of humanity (mahayana buddhism,) or the beautiful concept of Sufism, where love is a projection of the essence of God to the universe.<br /><br />i often separate myself from religion because i think that religion places god in a box and constrains our thoughts relating to god specifically to the wrapping of that particular box. so that your ideas of god and the practice of relgion is sometimes bound to whatever religion and text you hold to be true.<br /><br />but that sentence, god is love, i think removes god from that box. so that if you worship god, regardless of the box you uphold, your life..your attitude, character and behavior..should be a reflection of love. as god is love.<br /><br />in 1 John 4:8, he says that "whoever does not love does not know god, because god is love (new international version).<br /><br />often times, we think of love as just based on affection between two people, a romantic and passionate concept of love. sometimes we have to be reminded that "love exists outside of the affection between two people" (a quote from me). <br />when pastors talk about this topic in church they often mention that greek has like five different words for love (agape, eros, philia, storge and xenia). c.s. lewis, the christian author (chronicles of narnia, etc.) wrote a book about four of them called the four loves. how many people do you know who know what those words mean?<br /><br />about a month or so ago, i went on a first date with a guy and the topic of homosexuals came up. he was very uncharitable and he was very comfortable being that way because of his religious box. <br /><br />i often see people with bumper stickers and bracelets and necklaces with WWJD on it (what would jesus do). a very nice concept. but sometimes if you get those same people talking about a hot button topic (homosexuality, abortion, sometimes even welfare moms, etc.) and you might witness an example of what jesus would not do.<br /><br />sometimes i wonder, if jesus were alive today would he attend church...<br />how would he behave with the those people who live differently than we do. the ones who believe differently then we do. what about the atheist or the lesbian female with her same sex spouse, raising kids... <br /><br />in the bible there is something known as the "great commandment". matthew 22: 37-40 <em>where jesus says "love the lord your god with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. this is the first and greatest commandment. and the second is like it: love your neighbor as yourself. all the law and the prophets hang on these two commandments</em>."<br /><br />he says that those two commandments sum it up..<strong>love god with everything you've got </strong>and <strong>love your neighbor just like you love yourself</strong>. <br /><br />later on, a proponent of religious boxes approaches jesus and says that according to the law, even this great commandemnt, i should be straight..and get to heaven..but can you tell me specifically who is my neighbor? <br />jesus's answer to him is the parable of the good samaritan. the samaritans (themselves jews) and the other jews couldn't stand each other. each thought they were the chosen and each thought the other had veered off the path. <br /><br />when reading the parable, substitute samaritan with whoever it is you revile (or think is going to hell, or think you are better than)<br /><br />"<em>A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he fell into the hands of robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him. The next day he took out two silver coins and gave them to the innkeeper. 'Look after him,' he said, 'and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.' <br />"Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?" <br />The expert in the law replied, "The one who had mercy on him." <br />Jesus told him, "Go and do likewise."</em><br /><br />the samaritan in the story knew that god is love. the samaritan came out of his box ('cause another samaritan might not have..they had reasons to not like the other jews just like the other jewish folks had reasons to not like them..and they could all quote whatever book/law to justify it)<br /><br />at dang near every wedding you go to, you may come across a reading or quote on a program of 1 Corinthians 13. <br /><br />specifically it says love is patient, kind. does not envy, does not boast, is not proud. is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs. always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (some reads love never fails)<br /><br />that's a pretty good definition.<br /><br />i'm trying to keep this at the forefront of my mind..and heart..god is love, go and do likewiseMoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-44300139810713020982009-08-17T08:49:00.005-04:002009-08-17T12:05:03.479-04:00from there to herein the natural order of things, there is conflict between the younger generation and the older. with babies, at some point they begin to understand that they are separate from thier mothers; that there is a world that is "me" and a world that is "not me". this is the process of the baby becoming an individual.<br />it is the same with the teenager. they go through a sort of rebellion to their parents and the world they grew up in. while growing up they accepted the parents world-view and as they develop, the begin to individualize. this is cataclysmic. thier hormones are raging, thier brains are developing and they are coming to terms with their own world view.<br />this is normal.<br />in my teenager years, i began to read. in doing so i encountered so many ideas that were alien to anything in my experience. i read books about religion that were critical of my own. i read books about other religions that made me doubt my own.<br />i read writers essays on current events (of their time) that i didn't even know had happened (from my time). i also saw the shortage of books related to me, specifically as black and as a black female.<br />although the writers themselves, were long since departed from the earth, i was dealing with their thoughts in the present time. and it caused a revolution in my mind. in a sense, this was like time travel - in the 90's, i encountered Woodson, DuBois, Garvey, Booker T., Diop, etc.<br />that made me look at my culture in the present from that past perspective and i asked, what happened to the black leaders? where did all of these educators/intellectuals/writers go? what was going on? did we drop the ball?<br />i was like the teenager who begins to see a different world view than what i had been given. it was cataclysmic.<br />it gave me a feeling of disrespect for the older generation of black people (after the civil rights movement). it felt as if they had stopped being activist and started being conformist. it felt like they had stopped going to the picket line & marching..and had started just going to work. i remember looking at my grandparents and wondering what had they done to further our struggle. (my grandfather still thought of black people as "coloreds"). i was resentful that they had not purposefully given me anything to foster racial pride, cultural affirmation..i felt that they didn't give me anything to go on. just sent me out into the world.<br />it would take years before i would lose that sense of disrespect for that generation.<br />as an adult, there were two items that i came across that sort of slapped me in the face.<br />one was alice walker's Everyday Use (from In Love & Trouble: Stories of Black Women. in the story, there are two daughters, dee & maggie. dee lives in the city, she's college educated and african-centric (with a muslim boyfriend, african dress and the popular african-centric phraseology of that time) and has since changed her name and generally looks down on the more traditional black folks from her home town. maggie, stayed in the communtiy, did not get an education and is basically just one of the regular ole "folks". she's going to marry a local farmer. dee comes home to take some relics from the family to use them for show..like museum pieces. at issue, are the quilts made by their grandmother. the mother had promised maggie the quilts as a wedding gift. maggie appreciates the quilts..knows the history of them and wants them in her new home. dee wants to hang the quilts, like art. dee says that maggie just wants to put the quilts to everday use and that the sister and mother do not understand their heritage. the story is narrated by the mother. it shows dee as shunning her culture for the more idealistic african centered culture. the story asks the question, how should you honor your heritage? should you put it to everday use or view it from a distance...set it up for show as something you no longer associate with?<br />the next is the movie/musical sarafina. the movie takes place in south africa and is about the students of soweto during the soweto riots & apartheid. in the movie, we see the students rebelling against their oppression and their oppressors. we learn of the men, who leave thier homes to fight the system. we see students being beaten and killed by thier oppressors. sarafina, the main character, goes to visit her mother who works as a domestic for a white family in a very nice neighborhood in contrast to the shanty town where they live. everything is clean and orderly. it's nice. and in the conversation sarafina looks at her mother with disgust because her mother doesn't understand why the children are fighting and burning the schools & causing trouble. her mother says that <strong><em>revolution does not put food on the table</em></strong>. she tells her mother "you've been a servent for too long momma". at the end of the movie, the students are rounded up, they are taken to prision, they are beaten & tortured and some are killed. a bruised and dirty sarafina is on the train going to her mother after she is released..during the ride, she looks at some of the women and the beautiful landscape and she walks to her mother, who is there with open arms..waiting..and she walks into her mothers arms. she realizes that while the men are off fighting, the mothers are there, working..the mothers were left to deal with life..the only way they knew how..to deal with life...sarafina realizes that while her mother wasn't a "revolutionary" in the tradional sense..women like her mother kept them going...she tells her mother "you make me strong momma"<br />i always cry at that part of the movie. every single time.<br />after the teenage years..after you settle into adulthood. where do all of the ideas go? where is all of the fight?<br />in highschool, in my own mind i was a revolutionary. since that time, i joined the military, i go to work everyday and i take care of my family. i try to work my ideas into the way i raise my children. i try to mold my reality as much as possible so that it reconciles with they way things should be..in my mind. i try to put my ideas to everday use...at the same time i deal with life the only way i know how...i deal with life.MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-478623391044044852009-08-12T12:40:00.002-04:002009-08-12T12:54:39.678-04:00Long time comingOk. I really did think that I would be posting on a regular. At least once a week. It's been almost a month since my last posting.<br /><br />Today, I listened to Leelah James <a href="http://www.leelajames.com/">http://www.leelajames.com</a> and her classic remake of A Change is Gonna Come by Sam Cooke.<br /><br />And that is exactly what's been going on this past month. I've been dealing with changes.<br /><br />Some physical - been going to the doctor to figure it out. And the other mental & emotional.<br /><br />Possibly, this is all just normal for a thirty-something with a fifteen year old and a seven month, a full time job, school, navy reserves, bills, bills, bills..and then regular life.<br /><br />I tell you that God has been communicating with me through books and music (as always). And without those, I might have gone around the looney bin and stopped for a visit.<br /><br />As it stands, my sanity seems to be present and I'm doing fine.<br /><br />About to do my two week annual training with the reserves and I plan on posting almost daily. I've got so many topics, I don't know where to begin. But to keep it simple, my first topic will start with a woman whose been with me through most of my journey -alice walker.<br /><br />Talk to you soon.MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995521310346051945.post-37815844012250712912009-07-12T13:40:00.013-04:002009-07-15T12:17:55.503-04:00To vaccinate or not to vaccinate<em></em>Today is the last day of my drill weekend and I must say I'm glad that its over. I talked to Ms. Stampley at lunch today and we had a great conversation that involved quite a few books.<br />Today, I'm reading "Fatal" by Michael Palmer. (<a href="http://michaelpalmerbooks.com">www.michaelpalmerbooks.com</a>) <a href="http://www.michaelpalmerbooks.com/"></a>It's a medical suspense novel that involves, among other things, a grandmother who is dealing her her grand daughter who was normal until she was given the DPT and MMR vaccines. Pretty good, so far. The book is quite timely for me, as Kaeden, my 6 month old, got his 4 month shots on Monday.<br /><br />Although I had heard of and considered the vaccine debate, I wasn't seriously thining of bucking the system and skipping my son's vaccines on principle.<br />In fact, I had no thought of the side effects until Wednesday night, when I realized that Kaeden was still cranky and acting completely out of character.<br /><br />First off, Kaeden is such a good tempered baby, that he rarely cries. And when he does its because he is hungry (and he can eat) or because he needs his diaper changed. His daycare provider was worried when I picked him up because he had been crying most of the day. When we got home, he continued this behavior. He cried and screamed. He wouldn't eat and he didn't sleep well through the night. I think he cried more during that day than he had his entire life!<br /><br />I took him to the doctor on Thursday and had him checked out, concerned that maybe had had an ear infection or something. The doctor said that nothing was wrong and that he was still reacting to the vaccines (pain in his legs where he got the shots; two in each) and suggested giving him Tylenol <a href="http://www.tylenol.com/"></a>every 4-6 hours for about a day or so and if he didn't seem better after that to bring him back.<br /><br />Which I did. And it appears to have worked. He seems to be back to his happy, baby self.<br />But now I have some fears about his next set of shots, due in August. Friendly advice has been to just give him the tylenol before we go to the doctor. But what about the possible side effects to his brain. I've since read about DTP and a correlation to/with Autism and the concern that we are over vaccinating our children and the increase in Autism, ADHD, even childhood diabetes. <br /><br />I'm not out to become an activist or anything, but I do feel that as parents we need to become more informed about what we're putting in our children. For more information, go to <a href="http://nvic.org">www.nvic.org</a><br /><br />Any thoughts?MoorePeachTee-nesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17547163020452154430noreply@blogger.com6